Saturday, September 10, 2016

Prospects and the American Female

I find it amusing that women feel they have such power in choice - to choose X or Y as their partner.  To choose Dave or Steve or Juan or Mark or ... It got me to thinking.

There are about 301 million Americans.
About 49% are male.

About 28% are under 20. 

Approximately 2.5% are gay
About 20% are over 55
About 1% are psychopaths
About 5% are sociopaths
About 2% are bipolar and not taking medications
About 3% are pedophiles
and between 45-50% are married or in relationships.  Probably take 47% just as average.

Of those left - approximately 28,141,000, there are other deductions

Everyone has something they are not interested in.
30% are extremely overweight.  I will assume they would get set aside, mostly.

Let's just reduce the number by that much.  That leaves approximately 20 million.

About 75% are white, 25% are not white.

Take 20 million and select the percentage, if you have a preference.

Then take height.  You want short or tall.  Male average height is 5' 10".  50% taller and 50% shorter.  You can figure the number.

Then 32% of males 18-34, still live at home.  I think that should be an indicator, but not a disqualifier, unless they are toward the top of that number and not saving money to buy their own home.

Also, about 23% of men over the age of 25 have never been married and have little desire (as stated in the polling/surveys done).

Men are also getting married at an older age:  The median age at first marriage is now 27 for women and 29 for men, up from 20 for women and 23 for men in 1960.

And what about those who don't want to get married (81% of young males). 

And why should they in a culture where men are bad, men are the problem, men can't do anything right.  Where television and media portray men as weak or mindless ... why get married.  So you are locked into abuse being told how to dress, eat, walk ...

And why get into a relationship when a guy can get everything he wants without that and women are more than accomodating.

Of the number remaining who may still be interested, what percent have too much baggage for you ... maybe a child or children especially with more than one other female, have been married 2-3 times, have no ability to commit to anything more than the next meal, have mother issues, cannot seem to finish anything they start, have been in two dozen relationships and believe they learned things every time (honestly, there is NOT that much to learn which raises questions about that guy - perhaps he forgot some of the early stuff by the time he got to the end, or he was enjoying himself too much), have never been in a relationship ever (probably hovers been 2-4% of all guys - and while some of these may look fine, they are severely handicapped) ...  Maybe you don't have an interest in getting with a guy who is bi either so knock off another 2%.

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Once you have sorted through all that ... 

Maybe disqualify the cheaters:  78 percent of the men .. interviewed had cheated on their current partner, only a handful said they cheated because they were near the end of their emotional relationships. And women may respond to similar pressures: According to a 1999 study in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, 68 percent of female undergraduates also cheat. (Whether they cheat for sexual or emotional reasons remains unclear.)

Once you disqualify the qualities you don't want (not that you can tell who will cheat on you) ... then

... assume 10% of the country lives in California, so take 10% of that number if you live in California and do the same for the rest of the country and ... you have a very very small chance  :(  of finding that perfect guy.

Then assume there are the guys who date women with a kid, because they are easy.  It isn't to demean anyone, but women with a child probably work a lot, take care of their child, and are generally tired.  A 20 year old female is trailed by a pack of dogs all eager.  The single mother is busy and tired and some guys find this an easier stable to work from, which further diminishes the prospects because these guys have near 0 percent interest in long term - they want 1-2 or 3 women for sex, and no real effort.  That guy has to be removed from the options list which leaves women with fewer prospects.  Also have to remember to remove the approximate 5% who are involved in non-monogamous relationships, unless you are in to that!

And then the dating sites ... ha.  Like they tell the truth.  I've had friends who write/say all the things necessary.  They can carry it off for 2-3 weeks, until they tire of the female, and move on.  By then the female is caught up and confused and then feeling used and angry.

And the final qualifier - maybe you want the guy who has some education.  About 45% of students in college today are male.  Not that being educated should disqualify anyone, but .... if the female has an education she more likely than not wants someone her equal, lest she .... not find intellectual stimulation in her guy.

And then, what about the guy who is really put together.  He has the education, career, home, money, car, looks ... and you have some baggage, maybe a few fries short of a happy meal??  Maybe you have some issues a guy who is mentally healthy won't stick around for ...

There are always better, but maybe better isn't better, and better won't make you happier.  If you have a guy who is ok ... don't mess it up by taking advantage of him (same for him), because at some point he will not put up with the rubbish and will move on and you have the odds stacked against you.

So maybe ... just in California there are X number of thousand guys who are reasonably decent - assuming none are just out for the one off.  There are about 15 million females (not all old enough to date or perhaps too old but still ...).  Our population is over 35 million.

What are the odds?  I suppose you could try a male from somewhere else ... good-luck with that.

Now, the guy -
We have no standards.
There are about 108,000,000 females over the age of 18 in the US.
Doesn't matter if they are mad, bi-polar, as intellectual as a brick ... many guys are not looking for more ... So many to choose from.

(ok, well, the psychopaths are not the best to get with)

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