Sex and the City and Women - One Night

Two articles. One from The Daily Record (June 26) and the other from The Weekend Australian (June 28). No other comments needed. No links available.




WHY WOMEN HATE ONE-NIGHT STANDS - They’re left feeling cheap and unloved

26 Jun 2008
Daily Record
By Karen Bale


WOMEN hate one- night stands because of evolution, according to research.

Eighty per cent of men enjoy casual sex because it satisfies their prehistoric instinct to breed.
But 46 per cent of women felt cheap and full of regret about the experience.

Unlike men, who felt satisfied and content after a one-night stand, they worried about potential damage to their reputation.

They enjoyed the sex less too, according to the Durham University study of 1743 men and women.

Professor Anne Campbell, who led the research, said men were more likely to reproduce and therefore to benefit from numerous shorttermpartners.

In Human Nature magazine, she reports that the sexual revolution of the 1960s has not changed how women feel about flings.

She says: “In evolutionary terms, women bear the brunt of parental care and it has been generally thought that it was to their advantage to choose their mate carefully and remain faithful.

“What the women seemed to object to was not the briefness of the encounter but the fact that the man did not seem to appreciate her.”

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28 Jun 2008
The Weekend Australian
Lauren Wilson

Sexes divided over one-night stands


SEX and the City may have it wrong. According to new research, men still find one-night stands far more gratifying than women do.

A quarter of a century after author Erica Jong wrote candidly about women’s desire for brief and anonymous sexual encounters, a new study has found almost half of the women surveyed had negative feelings after a one-night stand.

Anne Campbell from Durham University in Britain, surveyed 1743 men and women in an online interview about their feelings the morning after a one-night sexual encounter.

The results, published in the June issue of the journal HumanNature , suggest that the daughters of the sexual revolution still feel somewhat ambivalent about fleeting sexual affairs.

Professor Campbell found that while 80 per cent of men had positive overall feelings about their experiences after a one-night stand, only 54 per cent of women surveyed felt the same way.

Men were more likely than women to want to brag to friends about the ‘‘ notch on their belt’’, and they reported having a greater sense of confidence and wellbeing after the event, Professor Campbell said. Women, on the other hand, were far more likely to report feeling ‘‘ used’’ or disappointed with themselves the morning after.

Professor Campbell found that women generally found the experience less sexually satisfying than men, and many of the women surveyed still said they were concerned the one-night affair would do damage to their reputation.

But the women surveyed did not seem to view taking part in casual sex as a prelude to a long-term relationship.

The results of the study suggest many women have not adapted to fleeting sexual encounters the way popular programs such as SexandtheCity would have you think.

Jo Joseph, a 28-year-old marketing coordinator from North Ryde in Sydney’s northwest, said shows like SexandtheCity portrayed one-night stands as a sign of sexual liberation, which was not always true for many women.

But Ms Joseph, who ended up dating the only man she had a onenight stand with, said many women today are happy to speak candidly about brief sexual encounters without worrying about damage to their reputation.

‘‘ In certain demographics, young upwardly mobile girls do brag about their sexual escapades just like men do — and having a onenight stand is seen as being a sign of being an independent liberated woman,’’ Ms Joseph said.

Kylie White, a 28-year-old graphic designer from the southwestern Sydney suburb of Casula, said she believed a women’s experience of a one-night stand depended on their expectations going into the experience.

‘‘ I think the women who come out of a one-night stand feeling negatively are women who were hoping it would lead to more,’’ she said.

‘‘ But the ones who are OK about it from the get-go are the women who enjoy the experience, and don’t feel let down in the morning.’’











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